Some dark facts about human nature: most men will sacrifice nearly every other personality quality especially over the short term for beauty in a partner, and will excuse any transgression of the pulchritudinous, no matter how heinous.
And most women really are significantly more attracted to those men (bad boys) with the “dark triad” of personality disorders: narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellianism.
(And don’t tell me that latter is not true. I possess many of those traits and that’s the only reason I was attractive to many women! Though luckily that is not what attracted my current partner and I am a better person for it.)
Men and women are maladapted in so many ways to our current society. Choices we see are an expression of that.