It also shows a very poor understanding of male sexuality. It assumes male sexuality is driven primarily by seeking physical pleasure. This is what it appears to be on the surface (including to men), but it is more driven by ego validation.

— SkyDancer (@SkyDancer90) March 9, 2021

That is true in immature men, and it’s why incel-dom (in all its variants) isn’t really about sex.

And I can understand the power of that! When I was 17, I went to a school dance with a very beautiful friend of mine I’ve written about previously. More than one dance, but that first one is where I saw how much more respect I got even being with a beautiful girl — from both men and even more so, women. Even teachers treated me better after that! This doesn’t just end in high school, by the way. I was happy to go with her (her idea), but I had no clue that people would treat me so much better after until it actually happened. Literally I just walked into the auditorium with a beautiful girl, everyone saw, and I was treated twice as well ever after. Who wouldn’t want that, even if it’s not really fair to anyone, including the woman?

The incel fantasy is really about being with a devastatingly beautiful and charming woman that everyone knows you’re with. And the reason is because you do get treated better after that. Don’t want it to be true, whatever. It still is.