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I think there is something to the imprinting idea, but I don’t think the experience has to be at all sexual. My first babysitter is the woman I 100% know that I imprinted on as being my template of female attractiveness and she was perfectly professional. But she was tall, very slim, had lots of freckles, a fairly masculine face, and was the first woman (really, girl, but she seemed like a woman to my six-year-old self) who was not a family member or a teacher to be nice to me and to concentrate on me specifically.

Even though I know all this consciously, I don’t seem to be able to do anything about the attraction to women of this type. I simply am more attracted to women on the taller side, slim, with more masculine visages, and with freckles. Not that everyone I’ve dated has checked all of these boxes, or that is all that is desirable to me. Not at all. I’ve dated short voluptuous blondes, manic slightly chubby redheads with utterly pale skin, etc. But that babysitter definitely fixed the type of woman I saw as most attractive.

This is as close as I could find, but that babysitter looked something like this (model Mariia Kyianytsia):