Tentative

Agreed:

It definitely gets much more attention. I had no idea just how much. This is alas also true:

I mean the part about how men are not allowed to have standards but women are. I’ve observed that repeatedly and it’s just bizarre. But I think there are two things going on here:

1) Men are assumed by women to be sex-crazed beasts who will tolerate anything in exchange for sex, so of course they (men) don’t have standards, duh.

2) Women often go into a relationship as a way to escape from societal/social pressures, so are resentful and resistant when their partner has actual standards such as not to abuse him, not weigh 400 pounds, and be a decent person generally. And don’t tell me this is not the case — I’ve seen it tons of times and it’s not pretty any time it occurs.