I’d never thought about fluidity and the diminution of the nation-state in quite these terms before, but this comment is spot-on.
Also, all of these arcane speech codes, microaggressions, bizarre and unrealistic sexual norms, they are a way if gatekeeping. Spaces in the fluid elite are limited and it’s important to keep as many people out as possible. There are no real borders, so borders are created in behavior, in speech, in shared norms that look very inaccessible and bizarre to the majority.
Let’s find a common cultural referent here. Remember how the people in the Capital appeared to those from the Districts in The Hunger Games? That’s how the globehopping, fluid elite seem to almost everyone else. They look and seem utterly ridiculous, in a comical way. This is true even if some of their ideas are valid and good (which they are).