Jan 16

Embracing failure

This is what embracing failure looks like. And then making excuses about it.

Oprah is arguably the most accomplished, admired, able person in the world. She creates magic for other people and herself on the regular. So, if Oprah can’t do permanent lifelong weight loss, maybe it can’t be done. Oprah is also crazy rich. If Oprah can’t buy permanent lifelong weight loss, maybe it can’t be bought.

It doesn’t take money to lose weight. It just takes eating less of what you are already eating (which should save you a bit of money).

I can almost guarantee that this woman’s food diary is not what she’s actually eating — pretty good studies show that people’s food diaries are highly inaccurate.

Very few people have the metabolism-affecting diseases they claim to have, and even most of those are exacerbated by weight gain and not caused by it.

I don’t give a crap how much this woman weighs. Or how much Oprah weighs. But I don’t see the need for me to pretend that these people aren’t lying to themselves.

Come on, just say you like food and that you eat too much of it and be done with it. Makes life easier for everyone and you don’t hurt other people with your BS in the process.

Done and done.

Jan 15


Héloïse Letissier is so cool.

She’s funny but good god she talks so fast in a language I’m more used to reading.

Jan 15

The excuses

I’ve rarely been more enraged as I became while reading this article.

Even the relatively dry language of the police report issued this week — summarizing at least 90 complaints of sexual harassment — makes the situation graphically clear. It refers over and over to victims surrounded by men and “groped in intimate area,” “grabbed by breasts and bottoms,” or even “fingers inserted in vagina.”

The rest is just as bad.

Whatever associations I have with the naive left is over. Done. Fuck all ya’ll. No, I am not becoming a conservative loon but when it comes to standing for continuing Enlightenment values and secularism, you are not on my side so I am very much not on yours.

You delusional nitwit useful idiots ruined a pretty nice country where sexual harassment and rape was pretty damn rare.

You goddamn hypocrite dissemblers, ignoring warnings this was bound to happen, letting a million or more ultra-patriarchal misogynistic men into Western Europe.

You addlepated fucksticks, pretending these refugees were nothing but helpless little tiny orphans and old ladies. We knew you were lying but didn’t do enough to call you out.

You society-degrading shitheaps, a half-wit gave you a piece of his mind and you seem to have held on to it. We who are opposed to unrestricted mass immigration of women-hating males, we are racist? We are the bigots? You believe “it’s just their culture?” That they can’t help themselves?

That sounds more racist to me. By far.

But I don’t give a shit what names I get called. I can find not an ounce of concern. I don’t even care about being right, which I am.

I care about Johanna. I care about what you and your neoliberal accomplices and co-conspirators have brought down on people like her. She didn’t deserve this.

But you all and your neoliberal masters do deserve all the blame. All of it.

Jan 14


And I’m also going to get to see Samantha Fish play this year.

It’s shaping up to be a good one for music.

Now if I can just see Christine and the Queens. Somehow.

Jan 14


Interviewed today the first female System Administrator candidate I’ve come across in many a long year.

She was pretty good; we’re gonna hire her. Cool.

Jan 14

Ani D

Going to see Ani DiFranco in concert in a week and a half.

Was a Christmas present to my partner, but I’ve also wanted to see her for years and have never gotten the chance.

Being surrounded by at least somewhat-more-feminist people will be nice.

Jan 14


Holy hell, let’s watch Molly Tuttle play guitar.

She makes that look so easy and I know it’s absolutely not.

Jan 14

The sacrificial Mary

Thinking again about the European refugee crisis, it always seems that when society is forced to make a choice between the welfare of women and the promotion of some ideology, the advance of neoliberalism or any societal trade-off, that it is always women who are the sacrificial pawn.

In many ways that makes those who so easily forsake the rights, hopes and dreams of women to other aims and other causes just as morally deficient as the refugees and their children (and children’s children) doing the harassing and assaulting and making people feel and be unsafe in their home cities.*

This culpability is also true in the case of the ACA and many other modern “deals” where women were the sacrifice gambit that allowed the compromise to proceed.

The refugees are easy to blame. And I do blame them. But it’s not their fault they were displaced by climate change and war, or that some political leader allowed them to be embedded in a culture that they are unsuited for and deleterious to.

And I blame them for making life noticeably worse for people I know and like, and making those people desire to become refugees themselves.

But to be fair — and to be rational — wider social and political happenings must be examined — for instance, why would Merkel allow this to happen? Why would so many other political leaders? It’s not charity or for the good of their nations — we are long past that time in history.

Only in understanding this can you properly apportion the blame.

The refugees, the women already present in the countries being destroyed and most men are just game pieces in some larger pursuit. Understand this or you understand nothing.

The refugees and the harm they are doing to their host societies is the point, not some side effect.

*For instance, the US bombing everyone to freedom is another example of this.

Jan 13


For years I’ve been talking with a woman in Germany on and off using a piece of software that incidentally has a chat room. I don’t know her real name, don’t care what it is and have no desire to meet her. But we’ve been talking since 2005 at least when we see each other online.

So I know her as well as you can for someone you only know in this venue.

With the immigration to Germany, already her life has vastly changed — she now gets harassed on the metro frequently by North Africans and this is what she says about the city where she lives (much of the conversation is omitted because we were jumping topic to topic):


Note: she is extremely liberal, is not against immigration per se, but that she daily gets harassed by North African/Syrian refugee men has soured her on the prospect completely. No white men harass her usually. I asked. She said one once, years ago, after a football match. So, hundreds of refugees. No one else, really.

I know — just one woman’s experiences. It’s an anecdote. Blah fucking blah. But it’s a woman I know and like. And trust as she’s been consistent with me for a decade.

Now tell me how this isn’t a problem, when a woman no longer feels safe in her home city, when she used to before this refugee folly was undertaken?

Because I see a problem.

Note: I want to get rid of all harassers, white or other. If someone paid me to beat the hell out of them with free rein, that’s a job I’d take and enjoy.

But I’d like to at least take a look at the unbridgeable cultural differences here. And what it means to people actually experiencing it.

Jan 13

Them Asians

I heard a guy at work today say that he’d “been to China” and “didn’t like Asians.”

What the fuck.

I’ve been to the Middle East and hated the place — mainly due to the treatment of women — but by no means would I say that I “hate all Middle Easterners,” etc.

I found people there to be about like people everywhere, really.

Don’t misread me — cultural differences matter. There’s a reason I don’t think it’s a good idea to allow a million virulently woman-hating men into your country. That’s a terrible idea just on the face of it, especially if you are a woman.

But don’t like all Asians? What does that even mean? How can that come out of anyone’s mouth as a serious statement?