The first time I remember disagreeing fundamentally with my family is the PATCO strike in 1981.
I was six.
I didnโt yet have the political vocabulary or even much understanding of the strike itself. I was precocious, of course, far more than most even very intelligent kids, but not some sort of superhero.
I just remember thinking that if that many people were willing to walk off the job and risk their livelihoods, there must be some meat of substance to their claims. Of course I had no working experience and no real way to identify how much merit their action had, but it seemed in its extremity to warrant some sort of attention.
What I thought was no more sophisticated than that. (And yes, I was paying attention to politics to some extent at that age; I could read fairly well at ~3 and could type at ~4, and started reading newspapers around ~5, and National Geographic from cover to cover with nearly-full understanding at ~6. As I said, I was precocious.)
But as my family โ in particular my father and grandfather โ ranted and raved about how evil and terrible the strikers were, and how they were loathsome liberals and everything that was wrong with America, it just didnโt seem right to me. As I said, I didnโt really understand why I thought that. I had no idea of class analysis, or even any understanding that I was in fact poor, but just that it seemed wrong to fire 11,000 people because they wanted better working conditions.
That wasnโt my first hint that I was really different from my family, but itโs one I remember pretty well.