I’m not doubting her experiences here, but this is not true of me. I’m exactly the same having sex as not. Hell, I don’t even sweat. My personality is unchanged; there is no transformation of which she speaks. I don’t know how common or unusual this is as I do not have sex with men.

But it’s true of at least one man.

I’m not a prude, obviously, but to me an orgy sounds terrible. I’m not even into threesomes. Just…too much. Too much.

If a man can’t get intimacy in his relationship, where does this notion of “entitled” come from?

There is a huge double standard here, even if the poster seems a little incoherent. A woman gets huge, blaring sympathy if she says she wants more intimacy and the man in question is not providing it. The man is blamed no matter what the woman does because he somehow must have “caused” it.

However, if a man wants more intimacy and the woman is not providing this, then the man is also invariably blamed, often with the accusers knowing zero details. In their eyes, he also must have somehow “caused” this. In other words, no matter who is complaining about the dead bedroom it is always the man’s fault because he is the only one seen to have agency.

Now why is that? Why must the man always be wholly responsible for the woman’s emotional well-being, even in this context of sex?

I tell you what, we men get tired of all this emotional labor women force us to do. 😉

One must wonder: in the near future, will you be able to have sex with a robot, and then program it to say a slur to save humanity from nuclear destruction?

Damn I sure hope so! More seriously, her take on the whole thing was pretty wrongheaded because she is an attractive woman who can easily get sex any time she wants it.

Many people agreed with me but many people also disagreed. Some people said I was taking a “female-centric” view to sex and not accounting for just how happy men are to have sex without any consideration to whether the other person is into them. The rationale here is that the vast majority of men aren’t attractive to anyone, so for them it would be the difference between having “fake” sex or having no sex.

I was skeptical. I believe that there are fewer men considered sexually desirable than women, but I don’t think that so many men are considered sexually undesirable (especially in unfixable ways) that sex robots would appeal to the majority.

She was taking an extremely female-centric view, where sex is very, very easy to get. For the vast majority of men it’s extremely difficult to get sex 99% of the time.

To most men, 80% of women between 18-40 are sexually desirable (even if for only a one-night stand). To most women, 90%+ of men are sexually undesirable for anything at all.

This is the huge mismatch she (and most women also) fails to understand.

My girlfriend had sex with a guy she met few days while she was waiting for me but now we’re official she asked me to be patient to wait until she’s ready to have sex?

This is where men get accused of things like “YOU ONLY CARE ABOUT SEX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1111111111” when it’s the feeling of being less important than some random clown that is really what’s going on. This is almost always the case, though it plays out in different ways.

The reality is that a lot of women use sex as a weapon. And men react to that weaponization. As anyone should.

Women are often more obsessed with sex than men, just in different (and typically more harmful) ways.

The myth is that men are sex-obsessed beasts who can think of and are concerned with nothing else.

The reality for most men: “This woman is naked with her legs spread and she’s pulling down my pants. Maybe she’s just tired? Or doesn’t like my pants? She probably doesn’t actually want sex. This is a trick or something. I better not chance it. Don’t want to be a creep.”

The above (only slightly exaggerated) happens so very often to men who are only used to disdain and rejection from women.

I’ve noticed similar and it is an enormous difference. It’s shocking how prudish, how asexual and how repressed younger millennials and Gen Z are. It’s like they are missing out on so much of life and don’t seem to realize it or care.

Very sure they’ll regret it when older, though.

And various goofuses were arguing with me a while ago, claiming that society in toto was not getting vastly more prudish. Totally wrong.

During sex, do men know if their condom breaks? Or no?

It depends in how into it you both are. Sometimes I can tell. Sometimes not. One time the condom broke, came completely off and got lost inside the woman I was having sex with. We didn’t realize it for a while. It didn’t feel any different to me at all because we’d been doing it a while and we were both a bit overstimulated.

No matter what feminists claim about the evilness of men (some even in that thread), it’s pretty difficult to tell most of the time when the condom breaks¹. Of the 3-4 times it’s happened to me, I’ve noticed it more often by seeing it broken than by feeling it. And I definitely don’t want no damn kids, so I’m very very interested in when the condom is not doing its job any longer. It’s just that you often cannot tell.

1. A lot of women seem to think our penises are a lot more sensitive than they in fact are.

Well, for men anyway we are told that any horniness means you are a creep and that any expression of sexuality means you are dangerous and terrible. That’s the modern consensus. What will challenge it?

We were moving away from this in the 90s a bit, but then it returned with a terrible vengeance.

Sometimes, I wish it were true that “men only think about sex” and that sex is all we care about. Because then I’d probably have a lot more of it.