Sex

Perspex

Chill Annoying, Sex

Is it true that most guys would be willing to have sex their female friends?

No.

I think my female friends are all extremely beautiful. And I like them a whole lot. But I don’t want to have sex with them. And I would not if offered. Hell, I stayed in a hotel room in London with a close female friend (separate beds) for two days and was not even tempted. Not that she’s not lovely — she is. But it’s just not what either of us is really looking for.

Unlike what a lot of women believe, men aren’t always after sex and we are not thinking about it constantly. That’s merely the ~5% of men you encounter the most frequently.

What women imagine men want and what men actually want are often very, very different things.

Bit So Fast

Chill Sex

Not a Good Jewish Girl✡️ (@estherzelda0514) / X

Sister, I can assure you that women are capable of really bad sex. For instance:

1) A woman who used more teeth than anything else during a blowjob. That hurt and left marks. She was genuinely trying, just terrible.

2) A woman who bounced around like a crazed gorilla and almost broke my penis. I was just a human dildo to her. I might as well not have been there for all I got out of it.

3) A woman who stuck her finger up my butt without checking with me first. If I did that to a woman, it’d be called “rape.”

There are more, but that’s a good sampling. This is another example of “women are wonderful, blameless, and cannot be held accountable for anything.” I think women are probably bad at sex more often than men, to be clear.

Actual Observed

Chill Culture, Sex

The culture is more overall sex-negative and sex-phobic in general than any time since perhaps the 1740s. I mean in practical terms and observed behavior, rather than “I saw someone in revealing clothing on TV, therefore people are sex-positive.” That’s a wholly different thing (and is dumbass logic to boot).

Ero Tick the Box

Chill Sex

People who were not there in the 90s get it very wrong about what was different then. It’s not just that we were having more sex then (we were). It’s that the whole approach to everything around sex, eroticism and intimacy was completely different then. And, again, that is what people miss, this crucial constellation of facts: Back then, we all treated sex as something that was just part of life. It wasn’t some scary partitioned-off bit of the wold; it was considered completely natural for women to be attracted to men and vice versa, and to express that in various ways. Nothing about it was perceived in any way as bad, unusual, or even awkward.

This makes for an utterly different life and far better (and happier!) gender relations. A man was not considered evil then for finding someone attractive. And two people were not punished by their own friends if they liked each other enough to have sex. It was just assumed as a thing that happened, that humans like each other and express it physically. It was seen more like breathing or eating food than what it’s seen as now, which is something that only strange and flawed people do.

Gen Z’s neo-morality is horrid, horrifying, and anti-human.

Workspace

Chill Gutter Philosophy, Sex

So little that men or women do that is intended to be sexy actually achieves that aim. In our current culture, both genders view sexiness as something imposed or even inflicted on you, rather than something created with a shared experience in mind.

Sexiness as a consumption item, then, almost never works. A force-fed meal is not enjoyable, and by the same token neither is OnlyFans-style compensation-based generic libido on demand. Stasi vs. McDonald’s is not much of a basis for a cultural erotic imagination.

Real sexiness requires centering the other person and their awareness, their desire, and not conceiving of yourself nor them as a consumption unit or subscriber. It is not about impressing them, but rather asking together, “What kind of encounter am I making possible?” Since Gen Z is incapable of this kind of thought at all, they are hopelessly lost, with no chance at all of a revival of the concupiscent.

Which is sad. However, without a focus on the shared experience and willingness to yourself be changed by the response, even in private life “sexiness” just becomes another mode of stale content production aimed at a partner for which you are just as interchangeable as the next OnlyFans model on their phone screen.

Volte

Chill Sex

About the ancient, “Men only want one thing and it’s disgusting” tweet from ages ago, I never figured out why sex was supposed to be disgusting in the first place. Or is the disgusting part that men only want one thing? Not sure how that should trigger disgust either, frankly, in several different senses.

Anyway, any woman who believes that just needs to think (as it’s what’s actually occurring): “Men only want one thing from me because I am boring and have nothing else to offer, and that’s pretty disgusting.”

Sad but true.

Sex Shift

Chill Sex

Back then, we (both men and women) treated sex/sexuality as a standard and expected part of normal life. It wasn’t “special” in the sense that it was not something outside of the regular practice of living. Nowadays, on the other hand, Gen Z treats anything to do with sex and sexuality — especially in person — as some exceptional, outré, “out there” activity that should not be discussed, seen, alluded to or partaken of except in rare circumstances.

I cannot stress enough the difference in culture and ethos as compared to now. Feels like a wholly different world. I cannot believe how laid back we were then compared to all the weird and pitiful Church Ladies around now.

Gay people got more freedom, but everyone else got far less.

Let’s Talk About

Chill Sex

And a lot of women actually like sex too. Trust me on that.

But I think a lot of this discourse lately is from women (and some men) who do not actually enjoy sex and are disgusted by it. Which, to be fair, is increasingly common, especially in Gen Z. And a lot of those women who do abhor sex are feminists. There’s probably a connection there.

Regardless, anyone who sees men’s sexuality as default evil and deviant is my enemy.

Sense and Sensitivity

Chill Amusing, Sex

What’s some crazy facts about men/the male body that women wouldn’t know?

Men’s penises are not nearly as sensitive as women imagine them to be. Almost every woman I’ve ever met severely, absurdly overestimates the “resolution” of sensitivity there.

They imagine the penis is like a fingertip. It’s more like the back of your calf, but even less sensitive than that. Yes, it can and does experience pleasure but there’s no “resolution” to it. So, no, often we cannot tell when the condom comes off during sex. Not without looking.

Hell, with a woman who’s turned on enough sometimes I can’t even tell if I’m inside her or not. And I’ve got more than average going on down there.

Why do women have such insane ideas about penis “resolution” sensitivity? I can’t even hazard a guess as to that one.

Amuse and Confuse

Chill Amusing, Sex

It’s pretty telling — and revealing of our evolutionary and cultural history — how very much time and effort people and groups spend attempting to police who should be allowed to have sex with whom.

Mostly, I just stand back and observe, amused and confused. Of course no one admits that’s what they are doing. But it is what you’re all doing.