To be completely clear, I don’t have any real sympathy for incels. They’ve largely created their own problems, their solutions are idiotic and redistributing sex as they imagine it won’t help and is not practical for human rights and bodily sanctity reasons. It’s a terrible idea and concept and wouldn’t even help them because it’s not actually what they want. (What they want is the respect of other men when they, for instance, walk into a bar or restaurant or party with a really hot girl, etc.)
That said, they have (like Trump voters) identified an actual dysfunction in society and are responding to it in the least productive way possible. The dysfunction has nothing to do with sex and women are not in any way at fault and are not the solution — no more than all of the rest of us are. So they are on the wrong track, steaming the wrong way fecklessly but with great conviction, solving no problems and causing much pain in themselves and others.
Nevertheless, the ones who should offer some sanity and actual solutions are often only a little better because they are also firmly embedded in zero-sum-game neoliberalism and also cannot imagine any preferable future nor path. Feminism is mostly harmful in this context because it cannot escape and has been fully and utterly captured by the reigning ideology and culture.
Cultures and civilization malfunction and fly apart when there is no valid path ahead. We are seeing this now, and will see more of in the future.
If it feels like 1914, there is a reason for that.