I just want to say unequivocally that the advice I see from feminists to “treat women just like you’d treat men” at work or to “treat women like you’d treat The Rock” is terrible, worthless advice. If I did that, if any man did that, we’d be fired, in jail, or likely both within the week.
I don’t think women have any real insight into how men relate to and treat each other. It’s much, much harsher than most men ever treat most women. Really, I think women have no idea here. Something I’d say (jokingly-ish) to a male colleague: “Hey, numbnuts, why’d you screw up that route? Where’d you learn IT, Trump University?”
Can you imagine saying that to a woman in the workplace? Unless I knew her very well indeed, I simply can’t. And if someone said that to me, if I screwed up the route, whatever.
And even if you use The Rock as an example, I’d joke around with him in ways (no, not about women, etc.) that no women would tolerate or would expect.
Perhaps men should be meeker or kinder or however you want to term it — but all I am saying is that right now admonishing men to treat women like they treat other men would leave most women running out of the workplace at a high rate of speed.