The first ten on today’s playlist:
Day: June 26, 2020, 11:49 PM
Disa
I really, really don’t understand the desire of so many women to be seen as choicelss infants. Does that really help? I guess it does in the short term when a guy you sleep with disappoints you. But that’s a bad path; one I wouldn’t want to be on.
I guess it’s easier to claim, “Oh, I was young and naive! I could not have possibly known sleeping with some dude would not really give me anything and everything I wanted! I thought I was his very favorite! I was just such a baby!” (Somehow, a 22-year-old baby.)
Perhaps I have trouble understanding because I have never in my life been that fucking clueless. I don’t know. These women regretting their liaisons with Ellis mostly just sound sorry that he didn’t want to marry them, and didn’t make them as successful as they’d deluded themselves into believing might be possible.
I say this to men and women: take responsibility for your own lives and your own actions. It feels so much better in the end.
Vaguesplaining
I don’t even know who Warren Ellis is, so trying to figure this out is probably pointless. But here’s a case where it seems women are deliberately self-infantilizing because they regret dating some nerdy dude.
From what I can tell, he didn’t target minors, he only used some so-called power differential (that to me seems, uh, pretty non-differential) to do what? Date? Like normal people used to? But that’s called “grooming” now I think. If the algorithm didn’t approve it, it shouldn’t happen, after all.
Or as a few Twitter users said:
Ellis seems a bit more aggressive than I’d ever be, but he doesn’t seem to have ever attempted to date minors, and the main regret of these women appears to be that they didn’t become as successful as they hoped — so now they regret dating the guy for a bit.
I literally cannot figure out what he did wrong except being a serial dater and a bit of a jerk sometimes.
If a woman did what he has done, by the way, she’d be considered “cool and sexually liberated.” That’s how you can always tell what it’s really about.
Grifting
an underappreciated benefit of social democracy is it might diminish people's incentive to exaggerate and lie for a living. "grift" is a macroeconomic, not just a moral, failing. most people would do better things if they were under less stress and/or knew better things to do.
— Steve Randy Waldman (@interfluidity) June 26, 2020
This is true. If I had a better option than legally stealing money from people dumber than me in the stock market, I would do it.
I find it kind of appalling that society allows that. But between that and not having a nice life, I’ll take having a nice life. These terrible incentives are how the world is made worse, bit by bit.
GOT Pow
Just read the phrase "whip smart" for the second time today to describe a writer (a woman) who is apparently not stupid. Have you ever read a man described as such? It's almost as if the default view of women in the arts is that they're a bit thick unless you say otherwise.
— Fiona Sturges (@FionaSturges) June 26, 2020
I’ve heard this used about dozens (at least) of men. Maybe it’s more common in the Southern US? Though it’s usually said of young men.
Another sign that the left thinks words are all-powerful. But to quote Cersei from GOT, power is power.
Be Above
There were two things that made me realize how difficult losing weight must be for most people. The first is that if you lose weight and get reasonably fit, you’re far less likely to die and you just feel better. It’s an enormous improvement in one’s life.
The other is that if you are not overweight or obese, you are automatically ahead of about 70% of people in the dating market.
That people do not do these things means that losing weight and getting a bit fit must be much, much harder than I experience. Otherwise, everyone would do it given the enormous and obvious benefits.