Interesting thread from Aella that shows that women have a completely different set of problems than men in the sexual/dating realm.
Essentially, she’s looking for someone that doesn’t and will never exist. And she kind of knows that because she has a lot of self-insight. However, like most women, she’s unable to self-correct.
Basically, she’s looking for a top 0.0001% guy who’s also rich and single, and who is as intelligent as she is, and as facile with language and thought, and in her age range or a bit older. Friends and neighbors, that dude has been married since he’s 25, and has no interest in Aella at all, given her history and neuroticism. (And I say that as someone who likes her a lot.) Hell, I have no interest sexually in Aella, and would not have sex with her for love or money even if she wanted me to, even though I’m quite sure she’d not be interested in me anyway! She’s attractive but I am not attracted to her is what I mean.
She is the extreme case of how most women think about this, and why they are “lonely” despite swimming in a an enormous sea of choices. It will probably never get better for her, alas. She’ll always want someone who doesn’t exist. A lot of attractive women fall into this self-trap.