Female incels do exist but don’t have the same problems as men, for the most part. Female incels are generally those who are dissatisfied that they are not in the top 20% of women and want top 1% (or above) men and can’t get them. They easily could be with other men but do not desire them.

By contrast, male incels are angsty about the fact they can’t even catch the attention of bottom 20% women. This is what happens when you’ve structured a society where 80% of women are competing so very hard for the top 10% of men.

Note: I am not an incel and never have been.

paradoxically, i think it feels more distant now than it did when i was much younger. oklahoma or florida — places i have lived and have close friends and family — feel like different countries now, not different states.

— GONELIKEHELLMACHINE (@golikehellmachi) May 25, 2022

Geographical sorting and polarization feedback loops. I agree, though. Socioculturally, places used to feel more alike. Parts of Florida (including parts I used to live in) now feel like foreign, hostile countries. This is true of other states as well. I expect more divergence, too.

A Culture That Kills Its Children Has No Future.

I realized this after Sandy Hook.

Violence begets injury begets death, and any culture debased to vacillating between violent struggle and idle nihilism is shuddering toward its end as a culture of death.

When one side is obsessed with policing words and the other with dispensing violence and subjugation, I can tell you what’s going to happen — and it’s not good.

This was well before the pandemic, but thinking about the time we went into a KFC…and they had run out of chicken. Like, shouldn’t that be the thing you make sure you always have? That’s your whole deal. You gotta have chicken when it’s right there in your name.