Todd

Usually when I revisit short stories, I am disappointed. Not sure why. And Stephen King often is rightly criticized for clunky writing. But some of his stuff is truly great, like this passage from “Mrs. Todd’s Shortcut:”

“I stood at the door. It was twilight in that deep part of summer when the fields fill with perfume and Queen Anneโ€™s Lace. A full moon was beating a silver track across the lake. He went across my porch and down the steps. A car was standing on the soft shoulder of the road, its engine idling heavy, the way the old ones do that still run full bore straight ahead and damn the torpedoes. Now that I think of it, that car looked like a torpedo. It looked beat up some, but as if it could go the ton without breathin hard. He stopped at the foot of my steps and picked something up-it was his gas can, the big one that holds ten gallons. He went down my walk to the passenger side of the car. She leaned over and opened the door. The inside light came on and just for a moment I saw her, long red hair around her face, her forehead shining like a lamp. Shining like the moon. He got in and she drove away. I stood out on my porch and watched the taillights of her little go-devil twinkling red in the dark … getting smaller and smaller. They were like embers, then they were like flickerflies, and then they were gone.”

Damn that’s nice. And even better if you read the entire story and are enmeshed in the allusive particulars that precede that passage. Glad I read that tale again for the first time since maybe 1988. I was not disappointed; quite the opposite.

Write Up

Was just thinking about Tanta — Doris Dungey — today.

She’s one of my favorite writers of all time. When I’m creating documentation for my team I often think, “How would Tanta write this?” There honestly aren’t many writers better than me but she was one. I will always strive to make my work as clear, as hard-hitting and as assured as she did.

I really miss her and wish I’d been able to read more of her words and to see more of the inside of her blisteringly insightful mind. It’s weird missing someone you’ve never even met, yeah? But I do. I can’t believe she’s been dead for 15 years.

Lockers

What are some things women complain about men that you believe is projection?

Locker room talk.

This is not really a thing that men do. Women engage in locker room talk (though not generally in a locker room) far, far more than any men do, ever. The idea of locker room talk is all projection on women’s part — because most women do in fact engage in extremely graphic descriptions of their partner’s sexual practices, anatomical characteristics, frequency and performance. With very rare exceptions, men do not do this while many women do almost as a matter of course. (And excuse it as “just girl talk.”)

And yes, I do know, because I have more than a few close female friends.

What men actually talk about in locker rooms if they talk about women at all (usually it’s just goofing around):

Man 1: Did you see Kristina? She looked hot!

Man 2: Damn she did! What are we doing for lunch?

Women’s locker room talk:

Woman 1: And then he took his pants off and his cock reminded me of my ex-boyfriends but I didn’t say anything even though it turned me off right away. And he kind of stood like he wanted me to do something, but I didn’t know what so I just laid down and he touched my thigh, but his hand was rough and that made me pull back a little so then he kissed me and that was ok but I couldn’t stop thinking about how his dick looked like my ex’s….

Woman 2: Yeah, I know what you mean. When my husband gets all sweaty and such it really turns me off and he likes to do it doggy but he’s so small so I don’t really feel anything, and so I like to use my toy but he gets upset when I do so I feel like he wishes he were bigger. And he doesn’t like it when I suck him off when he’s too tired but that’s the most fun for me because he doesn’t want to spend an hour having sex because it makes me too exhausted….

Men’s locker room talk, largely, is just not a thing. Trust me on this. Women’s locker room talk, though, is if anything even more explicit than what I wrote above.

Happens

I lost all attraction to women.

It happens. After a bad breakup with a terrible girlfriend who was attempting to incite me into physically abusing her* (so she’d look like the “good guy” after all the horrid shit she did), I lost all attraction to women for about a year. Nada, nothing. Didn’t matter how fetching or how interested, or how available. Just no response emotionally or physically. I thought that the narcissist gf had killed my attraction and libido forever.

When that was going on, the most attractive woman in the world could’ve been begging me for a weekend together and I would’ve felt nothing other than the desire to be alone.

Eventually, though, it all came back…slowly, but it did.

*No, I did not touch her, was not even tempted. She wasn’t worth $2, much less jail time.

The Push

The shit people ask IT.

I’ve never understood why we believe computers — now vital for a job — should be something that people are just allowed to know nothing about with no consequences. If a welder comes in to a welding job and doesn’t know how to turn on the welding machine or do the simplest tig weld, they’d rightly be fired the same damn day.

Yet if a user comes in and even after using a computer for 20+ years and can’t open the application they use daily and can’t find a file that is located right in their Documents folder, we excuse it. And I don’t think we should. I think the incompetent should be trained and if that doesn’t work they should be fired just as the welder would be. If you cannot use a vital tool for your job, you should not have the job. It’s as simple as that.

Recently where I work, a new person was hired who did not even know how to open Outlook and could not do the simplest things on her computer. One of my staff helped her a bit and got her going, but she still complained to HR that we “hadn’t trained her enough” and that our assistance was inadequate. HR came after my team, which has nothing to do with training and is in no way responsible for any of that.

I defended my person and fought back; I observed that if HR was hiring people clearly unqualified for the job (which absolutely requires competent computer use), and that they should also organize training and some sort of evaluation pre-hire for the needed computer skills — and, furthermore, I could not find “training” in any job title in my group.

That one died because of course it did. A lot of stuff gets shoveled over to IT — as I’ve observed before — as it’s often the only generally-competent department in an organization. And I’ve gotten better at pushing back over the years as I’ve gotten more senior.

Blue Moon

Why are older people arguing that the economy is booming?

Because Boomers bounced into the most bountiful boomtime in a bunch of years and thought their flourishing was because they were just so special, so amazing — but it was just an historical accident. Now they have that legacy of good fortune going for them and they believe that people under 45 aren’t prospering because they just don’t work hard enough and eat too much avocado toast. The reality is that the material conditions for younger cohorts have worsened enormously. Here’s why Boomers had and still retain huge advantages:

1) Boomers benefited from the greatest stock market long-term rally in all of history. If you put $10,000 in the S&P 500 in 1969 (the year the first Boomers turned 25) and left it until today, you’d have $215,300 right now. Yes, that is inflation-adjusted and includes dividend re-investment. If you bought a house for the average price in 1969 for $26,000, in many places it’d be worth around $1 million+ now (that is not inflation-adjusted because housing is a bit different, but if it were that’d be $218,052).

2) Boomers had far more job security; many worked for the same place for 30+ years.

3) Many Boomers had (and have) generous pensions and were union members while working.

4) Social Security was assured for them.

5) Cars, health care and education were far cheaper when they were consuming most of those items the most. For most Boomers, higher education was free or nearly so.

Most people are fairly narcissistic. That’s obvious if you’ve ever interacted with any humans. Boomers, though, are extremely, ridiculously narcissistic due to the circumstances of their blessed lives. The Boomer gen simply cannot understand that someone making $12 an hour at three undependable hustles simply cannot fucking afford the now-million dollar house that Boomers bought back in 1965 with pocket change and a handshake.

The world might not be better when the Boomers all die off, but it won’t be worse, that’s for sure.