I am an absolute bozo.

To greatly paraphrase R.E.M., 🎵we’re all bozos…sometimes.🎵

My work wife and I got so close that she started sleeping at my house to shorten her commute. We stopped talking when she left the company.

For the millionth time, ain’t nobody at damn work your friend. With very, very rare exception. They will drop you like a used cleaning rag the moment you lose your utility. Trust me on this.

What is the “worst” belief you hold, and why?

That there should be some sort of general knowledge and cognitive test to vote. If you’re 10 and can pass it? Fine, you can vote. If you’re 35 and can’t — nope, get the hell out of the polling station.

I recognize the problems this has but still want it anyway.

Gf of 3 months is going on a 2 week trip with a guy friend. Am I right be uncomfortable?

If someone wants to leave you, they will — trip or no trip. I’d be fine with this if my partner wanted to do something like this, just as my partner is fine with me doing something like that with any of my women friends.

In fact, have been discussing another (perhaps longer) trip to visit an overseas woman friend. We probably won’t stay in the same hotel room but it’s possible we will as she doesn’t have much money, she doesn’t like people paying for things for her and it’d save her a ton if we did that. (And she wouldn’t see that as me paying for something for her as I need a hotel room anyway, as we’d be traveling to a third country to hang out since it’s easier for both of us for a variety of reasons.)

People worry about secondary effects and ignore the primary issue; that’s just a general truism of humanity I think.