Why do Boomer bosses think water at the desk is unprofessional?
I’ve wondered about this too. Can’t the Boomers just go ahead and die already?
Month: February 2024
Wrong Way
Men, what is it that women seem to get wrong about you?
They think I lack confidence because I am quiet. However, I’m absurdly confident. Some even say arrogant. But I’d disagree with that assessment, because I say what I’m gonna do and then I do it. It’s not arrogant if you can actually do the thing. In my book, at least.
Contrary to what a lot of people believe, being quiet does not mean lack of mettle. In fact, most (but not all) of the loud, demonstrative, noisy dudes act that way to conceal their insecurities and fears. I simply do not have those so I do not need to do any of that extraneous crap. The extroverts make a lot of noise but do very little.
Women far more than men seem to think, “He’s aggressive, violent, and noisy, so confident!” When in reality, the opposite is usually true. Men know this but women are fooled by this display. I wonder why?
Taught
What event in your life still fucks with you to this day?
This is more general than the OP is looking for, but I still resent that even when they had money or that someone else would pay for it, my parents wouldn’t support or pay for anything I wanted to do if they weren’t also interested in it or thought I shouldn’t be into it. They didn’t give a whit what I was drawn to or cared about — or in the case of my dad, he hated it if he thought what I liked was unmanly and/or stupid.
Growing up in rural North Florida makes you stunted in many ways that you don’t realize until you get out in the world.
Deproach
Men who don’t approach women, why?
I’m not at this stage of my life anymore thank fucking god, but I would not approach women because many of them go nuclear on your even if you’re nice and courteous, and make sure you, your friends, your friends’ friends, your neighbors and even your fucking cat know what a scumbag creep you are for daring to talk to someone.
Of course, if she finds you attractive it’s all good. But you can never know in advance since women are so passive in this area and give “hints” that no one but fucking Nostradamus could hope to decipher.
No, I’m not bitter…. 😉
Jumper
I lived on the Santa Fe River in North Florida for a while as a kid. Mullet and sturgeon frequently do epic leaps out of the water there and make quite a splash. I got used to hearing that sound every so often. When I moved into town from living on the river, I really missed hearing the fish jump. To this day, that sound reminds me of happy times from my childhood of being on the river, fishing and exploring.
Yo
American Counterculture, Glimpsed Through Zines.
The zine I wrote in high school was called Yo’ Mama, followed by a short-lived one called toolshed. Yo’ Mama was an offensive humor zine that nearly got me expelled from school and toolshed was literary. No one read that one. Not really a market for it in rural North Florida.
Yo’ Mama actually broke even financially but I stopped publishing toolshed because I could not afford it.
Chosen
This is not a bad piece, but she’s wrong about if being fat is a choice or not. Of course it’s a choice — it’s just a hard one. Those are the ones that usually matter most in life, anyway. When I hear people whining about hard choices, I kind of tune them out because so much of my life was defined by difficult choices I was forced to make.
That said, I’m glad the semaglutide drugs exist. They help people and that’s what matters.
Chafed
What’s it like to have sex with viagra?
Well, the pills were pretty small so it wasn’t very fun. But I tried my best. There was some chafing.
Cry
The first ten on today’s playlist:
What the Hegel
Literacy crisis in college students: Essay from a professor on students who don’t read.
No human being can read 30 pages of Hegel in one sitting, for example.
Just found out I am not human.
The article overall points the finger of culpability correctly, though: the smartphone. Rarely in human history has any device caused so much harm and destruction of intelligence so devastatingly quickly. They should not exist in their current form, or perhaps at all. My proposal would require obtaining an expensive and difficult-to-get license to be able to purchase a smartphone. And that no one under 18 should have one.
Turbo Go
What is the dumbest criticism you’ve ever received at work.
That I was solving and closing helpdesk tickets too fast and making the other techs look bad. Closed sixty tickets the next day, and I was not cherry-picking the easiest issues either. The next-nearest tech closed 18.
It’s not my problem if the other people are slow as hell.
Phys Diz
Is it possible to attain a physique like Alan Ritchson from Reacher without steroids?
Yes, for a short time, but you must have the genetics to do so. Henry Cavill does not do any form of steroids and has a great physique — and also exceptional genes. Even without that genetic advantage, though, you can still look quite good. Hollywood bodies are never quite real, however, absent even steroids. For any shirtless scene in an action movie, the male leads are dehydrated and have usually done a quick workout beforehand to make their muscles blood-filled.
About a year ago, my muscles were most impressive-looking after I was quite sick and lost some weight from not eating. That was despite me being weaker than normal. This comment is also correct.
If you gave me a month, I could look extremely shredded and lean. But it’s not sustainable and in fact actors do not sustain it. They plan for it and back off it when it’s not required for a scene as it is not healthy. Remember that anything you see on a screen is not reality, nor is it meant to be; films and shows are the collective dreams of our society.
Owned By No One
I don’t use a lot of these tools where I work, but this is absolutely true.
Since the database is used by everyone, it becomes cared for by no one. Startups don’t have the luxury of a DBA, and everything owned by no one is owned by infrastructure eventually.
Anything that is too complex or doesn’t have an identified owner gets thrown over to infrastructure to manage and deal with. I’ve seen it happen over and over again. Often even if it has nothing at all to do with infrastructure (for instance, training). It’s such an annoying but incredibly-common aspect to working in my field.
Type Error
I think the reason a lot (not all) of older single women end up bitter and angry is because they are now experiencing what it’s like to be a man in dating.
A lot of women imagine they’d prefer to be invisible like 98% of men are their entire lives. However, when they actually have the experience of being disappeared they do not like it so well at all. Ask Norah Vincent — well, you could if she were still alive. Her project of dressing and acting as a man for 18 months contributed greatly to her suicide. She also mostly recanted her incorrect beliefs about men’s lives and experiences (which most feminists still hold).
Glad I’m not in that market now. Most women are utterly, hilariously undateable. Their over-inflated self-regard is only exceeded by their girth and unappealing personalities.