Everything is Virgin vs. Chad.

I can’t read the whole post¹, but I do think the girlfriend’s “compliment” is very insulting. More than 90% of men would. That is because these days women are even more hypocritical about dating than men. And that’s because they can be — they have more choice, and far more choice than they used to (which, by and large, is a good thing).

But that abundance of choice has fashioned a lot of women overall into worse people. Not all of the time, and not every woman. But a hell of a lot of them and a hell a lot of the time. No one wants to hear this but it’s true.

What the gf said is an insult because it implies that the man is a second (or 10th) choice, only good enough to have something long-term with when the woman/gf was done messing around with “bad boys” who are more attractive to her but mistreat her. Only then, after getting tired of that, did she settle for some chump who wasn’t good enough to get with her when she was in her wild phase. And that behavior is in fact true of many women. I’ve seen it myself quite often.

So indeed, if my partner said something like this to me (she never would) I’d strongly consider leaving her. As it is in fact a huge fucking insult. And yes, she reads this blog so ain’t no secrets here. If I said something similar to her, I’d hope she’d consider the same because it’s a big fuck you. It is demeaning and insulting.

That gf, without meaning to, set off a nuclear bomb in her relationship that it probably should not recover from; if she still finds the bad boys more attractive, she should go be with them for her and her boyfriend’s benefit. They’d both probably end up happier in the end.

1. Here is the post on Reddit.