I’m much, much more comfortable around women partially (but not wholly) because I am extremely, almost comically, terrible at intra-male standard competition rituals and ways of relating.
Anything to do with that I both do not understand and am horrific at so being around other men is difficult for me. Being a paratrooper was ok, though (mostly men), as there’s a lot less of having to prove yourself as compared to men with no accomplishments. Funny that.