Men why is society pushing so hard that if a man has standards it means he’s insecure?

That’s because women nearly completely control the dating market, and men having standards doesn’t benefit them individually or as a group. I have never in my life (outside of inhuman levels of bullying in rural North Florida) been as excoriated as I have when I’ve told women that I have a lot of standards that nearly no women meet.

Man, that pisses ’em off. I’ve even had friends get mad at me about that. I guess it’s an incel reaction but seen in a woman (where it looks a bit different).

My main, completely-inviolable standard is that I need someone intellectually close to my level. Otherwise, it’s not gonna work. And that automatically excludes 99.95% of humanity, but so what? The women included in that tend to be much more attracted to me than otherwise.

And no tattoos, of course. I mean, duh.