The primary unfairness in dating โ and one thing incels are completely right about โ is that mediocre women get 100x as much attention and interest as even above average men. To receive the attention that a totally average woman gets, you need to be a top 0.1% man.
And thatโs actually a pretty huge and psychologically-damaging inequity. It doesnโt make how incels deal with it likely to work or morally correct, but they are not wrong at all with their diagnosis.