What in the hell are people even talking about a power imbalance when there is an age gap? Like, yeah, I can understand if someone is dating a minor. Definitely power imbalance and should not be done. Fully agreed there. It’s unethical and immoral; there has to be a line somewhere.

But what is this mysterious enormous power that they imagine being older gives you? I’ve seen little to no evidence of it, especially if the younger person is older than 21-22 or so. I’m not in the market, but I’d absolutely date anyone 22 or above if I were. It’s not too likely I’d want to date anyone younger than that but if we got along and we were crazy about each other, why not? Not every relationship should last infinitely (and 95% of them end with break-up, age gap or not).

I think a lot of this “power imbalance” pseudo-concern is from people who know they themselves would attempt to do terrible things to the other person if they thought they could get away with it. And of course a lot of it is about women’s intrasexual competition, which has nothing to do with me. Only about 0.2% of the people complaining about age gaps actually care about protecting anyone from harm. The rest is pure bullshit.