Day: July 14, 2025, 11:43 PM

Gap Many Years

Chill Amusing, Clowns

Yep. Female intrasexual competition is fucking vicious. Male intrasexual competition is nothing in comparison. It basically disappears after 19-20 or so anyway. But for most women, it’s bloodsport for life.

Nearly all of the “age gap” nonsense is intrasexual competition. The rest is just jealousy and envy. About 0.00001% (likely less) is concern for anyone’s well-being.

Interrodate

Chill Annoying

For all that she’s divergent, Aella is laughably-typical as an attractive women. Her dates are like interrogations.

I want to understand him fast. I am paying close attention, looking for novel words to toss at him. It feels playful for me, like wrestling, or leaning into tension. I want to see the green under his bark, the places where he’s unpracticed. I slip in fast, arrowhead questions, ones that carry intensity or exploration. “Are you smarter than your coworkers” or “When your ex broke up with you, did you deserve it?” or “So when your mom died, did you feel bad about it?”

I’m faster than just about anyone alive and I don’t get embarrassed or feel awkward. And yet even I hate these type of torture interrogation dates. I’d probably get up and leave.

And because men absolutely despise these bound-for-the-gulag-if-you-answer-wrong type experiences, they tend to avoid doing the same to women.

As with most attractive women, she’s looking for a fantasy person who doesn’t exist or who got married a decade ago. Her list of candidates is basically zero. She’s so close to having self-insight but does not quite make it there, even with as smart as she is.

Again, she’s like 99.99% of other attractive women. Aella at least in this realm is only unusual in how typical she is.

At Large

Chill Annoying, Clowns

That is, largely, bullshit. You can change your hunger level and satiety settings over time. I know because I did it.

In my past I could easily eat an entire large pizza by myself. I used to do it all the time. Don’t anymore. The absurd idea that self-control is impossible is self-reinforcing into a doom spiral. I’ve seen it too often. And the above nonsense is the common lefty take.

But self-control is possible. And not even hard. It’s muscle you exercise — the more you do it, the better you get at it. Just like anything else. Don’t believe the harmful, self-defeating lies in that tweet.