I think a problem with advice about how to meet people is it mostly comes from people who are good at meeting people, and could do it anywhere

— Misha (@drethelin) July 18, 2025

True. I have a friend who is very extroverted, extremely quick-witted, beautiful and fearless. When I step away from her for five minutes she makes three new friends. I have no idea how. I simply couldn’t do what she does no matter how hard I tried. Even ignoring all the other things working against me, I’d be utterly exhausted within 10 minutes of living like she does. I mean it — I’d be dead tired and my brain would shut off.

When people good at meeting people give others advice, it’s kind of like when women give men dating advice. Both are completely useless.

The last time we hung out, my friend got us invited to a sex party by chatting to a woman at the next table at an Italian restaurant. We did not go, but that was funny.