A lot of women (not all, to be clear) interpret you interacting with them in a way that men would talk to each other as being creepy.

So, when you actually do meet the demand to, “Treat me just like you’d treat a man!” it is then denigrated as creepiness. No way to win. The best bet is to pretend to treat (again, most) women as one of the dudes but actually do not do that at all.