Progressive hierarchy creation and preservation is the hidden impetus for much that you observe now. The infiltration of neoliberal thought and the subsumption of genuine progressive forces under that rubric explains most of the explosion of identity politicking, not any real desire for positive change. Creating more hierarchy, more divisions, is how consumerist society metastasizes into arenas where it should not impinge, and of course you are a racist or TERF or some other form of bigot if you resist this in any way. Even the arena of dating is becoming increasingly constricted as pseudo-choices are made for you by those who “know best” what’s best for you. The illusion of choice while having none is the characteristic of our age, and no one is willing to enforce this as stringently as an enlightened progressive mind who will wail about “choosing my choice” but will inveigh mightily against anyone and sanction them mercilessly if someone does not make the same decision — in love, in being, in just denying the validity of the choice at all.