So obvious I didn't even think of it: heterosexual dating norms are full of examples of male emotional labour – e.g. expecting men to approach women
(Also full of examples of female emotional labour, just different things)
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Yeah, framing frequent and sometimes brutal rejection as “not emotional labor” is completely absurd. Yet, as with violence, men are told just to accept it, deal with it, handle it, and if you don’t you’re not a real man.
And then the feminists say that “no one is OWED love/sex/social contact,” as if 90% of them hadn’t just spent the past six months going obviously and embarrassingly fucking bonkers due to lack of love/sex/social contact because of Covid. The whole idea that no one is owed those things is both trivially true and completely fucking irrelevant and a very harmful and inhuman way of thinking. Because no one is owed anything. Food. Water. A place to live. Trust me, the universe does not give a crap either way. Burn you and everyone you’ve ever loved and known up with a solar flare? Fine. Just another Tuesday.
This is, again, predatory neoliberal hyper-capitalism refracted through feminism, and it’s no prettier there than anywhere else. We owe each other more than telling three-time losers that they deserve their pain and isolation. Or at least, that’s the world we should be trying for but won’t.