My bf admitted he’s no longer attracted to me because of my weight.

I know this is not permitted for men anymore*, but I sympathize with the dude. I’m not attracted to obese women in the least, and am usually not attracted to even overweight ones. This is a very strong preference in me, and I don’t think I could alter it if I wanted to (I very much do not).

Talking about someone’s weight is supposed to be verboten these days but attraction is important in a relationship — and not just intellectual attraction, but physical as well. Fuck not talking about it, therefore. It should be a factor. You don’t just get up to 188 pounds by magic. It doesn’t happen overnight.

When I wasn’t as attractive and fit as I am now, I was more tolerant of being out of shape in romantic partners. But I hold myself to a high standard and quite honestly, would expect the same of any actual or prospective partner (friends, I don’t give a crap). If that’s wrong I do not care to be right. Not at all.

*Despite the fact that women reject guys for height reasons all the time — something far, far less changeable than weight.