The mental health crisis among men is the only one where the solution always seems to be “men need to change,” whereas the solution to every other groups mental health crisis is “everyone else needs to change around them.” Why is this?

That’s because in the West currently, men are seen as defective women. This works about as well as you’d expect — which is not well at all. Men have their issues but none of them are that we are not in fact women.

Part of this (referring to the original question) is an overreaction. For a very long time men did really have pretty tight control of society and women very little at all. That has changed, and in many ways women control the cultural conversation and direction now. Thus, the push to make men be more like women rather than for equality.

It’s better than how it used to be, to be fair, but still not ideal especially for men who just can’t fit this mold.