Bound Up

A lot of women are convinced only women have double binds such as the Madonna vs. slut one that women commonly experience.

However, a very common one that men run into is that we are assumed to be constantly ready to have sex with any woman at any instant, always aroused and ready for action. But then are criticized extremely vociferously both when that is true โ€” and when itโ€™s not the case. For instance, woe betide you if some woman is attracted to you and you donโ€™t immediately drop everything to get down with her, or are just not in the mood. Then you are โ€œgayโ€ or โ€œnot a real manโ€ and such. All her friends will hear about it too.

Most people are solipsistic, so cannot see beyond their own noses. Men, though, experience very many double standards as to their expected behaviors. Perhaps not as many as women, but pretty damn close.