I think the party line from women has to be that all woman-uninitiated contact in public is harassment because women get so very much undesired contact.

As I’ve gotten slimmer, fitter and richer, though, I notice I get more contact initiated from women in public, especially if I am not with my partner. I don’t consider it harassment though it mostly doesn’t interest me either way. I have extremely low social capacity, though my social skills are pretty good these days.

Today at Morton’s (a local grocery store) for instance, a woman in my age range noticed me looking at pies in the case and said, “That one, that one right there is good.” She pointed at a chocolate mousse pie. Everything about her body language and approach told me she wanted me to talk to her more. I just wanted to get my dessert and go home, which I did (without being rude).

Branching off from that, it is definitely true that most feminist dating “advice” is absolute worthless garbage. If you listen to and follow any of that, good luck getting any dates ever. You don’t need to go full PUA but one of the reasons the PUA community is hated (apart from their raging misogyny) is because much of their basic advice works. Feminists like Amanda Marcotte see it as undesirable, geeky guys leveling up undeservedly, but it’s really just learning to be social and to read cues better. (I think this is most of the reason it’s hated, the Marcotte reasons, not the misogyny. To “feminists” like Marcotte, the mere existence of geeky, undesirable guys is misogyny.)