What’s the allegedly all-important “stages of life” nonsense people always bring up when they talk about how age gap relationships (romantic or otherwise) are worse than the apocalypse?

I have no idea what that could even mean. I realize that I am abnormal in many ways, but if you’re an adult what’s the difference if you’re in college or working or sailing the Greek isles on a gap year or sabbatical or whatever? It’s what you have in common that matters.

Perhaps it’s because I live in my head so much, if someone can hold their own intellectually with me¹ I don’t give a crap what supposed clownishly superficial “life stage” they are in. You can either understand what the fuck Hume was talking about or you cannot. Your mind can either dance or it can’t. The rest is irrelevant to me.

And I know I am only attracted to (as either friends or lovers) headstrong women, so perhaps that also makes a difference. I don’t have time nor heart for the weak.

I just can’t imagine putting so much focus on something that’s largely irrelevant² and then losing out on so much else.

1. Admittedly, that’s a very small set of people.
2. As long as both people are adults.