Equality

I think one of the reasons women have trouble on the internet is that in real life, they are used to special treatment most of the time. They are accustomed to being handled gently the vast majority of the time by most people.

On the internet, that goes away. I certainly do not attempt to treat women cautiously here. They said they want equality; I give it to ’em. Others are the same. Turns out equality feels like punishment and being mistreated.

Welcome to the world men have always lived in! Nice to have you!

Look Elsewhere

Whatโ€™s a stereotype about men that feels especially inaccurate to you?

That the only thing we care about is sex.

Are women basing this off how men behaved when they were 16? Or what’s going on here? I think at least some of it comes from the men that women most often encounter tend to be this way because they are the most pushy and the most bold.

But for 99%+ of men, it’s just completely false.

My advice to women: if you want to find men who care about more than just sex, look around a bit more. The jerk might seem crazy hot to you, or at least be right in front of your face, but there are more men out there than that. And most of them want more than a quick lay.

Trust me on this. Also, get a male friend. He can identify the mega-abusive jerks in a fraction of a second (nearly all men can). And most women cannot, for whatever reason.

Let There Be Lux

If you call me anything other than “His Glorious Majesty, Conqueror of the Known Realms, Future Overlord of All Realms, Ruler of the Spaces Between and Beyond, Chosen of the Unknown and Unknowable Numens of the Infinite Black, Dreamer of All Dreams, Finder of All Lost Things, Scourge of the Gutless and the Insipid, the First and Only of His Name: The Eternal Galactic Overlord Lux Null,” you are deadnaming me.

And I will not stand for it.

Compet

Best to just ignore that shit; it’s just female intrasexual competition at work. Yes, it’s mostly unconscious (she does feel genuinely affronted), but that’s that’s still what it is. There are many women who do wish to self-infantilize, though. No idea why. Easier than taking any form of responsibility or being held accountable, I guess.

Good gig if you can get it. Men can’t.

True Try

sus (@sus@timeloop.cafe) - the Timeloop Cafรฉ

I worked for a sub-unit of a German company that made exactly those kinds of products. And I kid you not, their unofficial motto was, “We do not innovate.”

And in this case it was exactly what our customers wanted. These were all extremely large (many Fortune 100) enterprise customers that prioritized the tried and true, the stable, and the predictable. They did not want anything that changed like the wind every month or two, as is the usual tech industry way. If a product had been out and tested for 10+ years, they might consider using that “new” tech. And then adopt it over the course of the next decade.

More of the tech world should be that way.