Does anyone else have a spouse who has that weird corporate mindset?
I had a girlfriend who thought the business she worked for saw her as family. But of course it did not. First, they cut her hours in half and then they laid her off.
Cured her of those misapprehensions right quick. I felt bad for her of course but everyone has to learn this lesson the hard way, I think.
A woman on Reddit (sorry, lost the comment) said a lot of women get tattoos to deliberately make themselves unattractive to men. And yeah, I guess I can kind of see that? Seems drastic but I know there is a lot of unwanted attention and harassment.
But that is hard to understand from a man’s perspective as most men spend vast amounts of time and money hoping for even a bare scrap of a woman’s attention for a fraction of a second.
So that is a vast difference. Seems unbridgeable sometimes, especially when you’re actively dating.
Nobody at my current job has any idea how difficult a lot of the stuff is that I do because I make it look easy. This is a real disadvantage because then management can start to believe that anyone can do it. Until someone else attempts it and it works not so well at all and they need help from half a dozen other folks.
I need to do better at floating up what I’m doing and that it’s not typical to have one person filling as many roles as I currently undertake.
A lot of women are extremely vexed that men who can are becoming as picky/choosy as they are. But it boils down to that women think they want to be treated like men, but really they want all the benefits of being a man with none of the enormous drawbacks or responsibilities. That’s just how humans work in general, to be fair. Women are not unique here but are doing worse than men in dealing with how the modern era has changed the calculation. In dating for many years, women were used to having the upper hand unquestionably and now do not, at least not 100% of the time1. And as the male backlash against feminism showed, that loss of near-total dominance2 is hard to get used to.
Up until 10-15 years ago, 99% of men had to just accept whatever woman came along who showed any interest at all. Having standards is not a thing we were allowed. Now that many of us do have standards and won’t just accept table scraps, it has caused much consternation and gaslighting among women.
And a lot of the decline in women’s mental health (and health in general) is due to social media3. The ubiquity of it and that they are more susceptible to it has really fucked them up and over. It’s sad to see. And I mean that sincerely. I wish it were better for them, truly. It’s a huge net loss for society how social media has reduced women’s cognitive capacity and ability to engage with reality 4.
Agreed. And I’d argue the same for age gap romantic relationships. Yes, even for women. As long as everyone is legal I think it’s a net benefit.
Also, a 20yo vs. a 30yo is not a generational divide. However, this seems abso-fucking-lutely insane to me:
I was mentoring an intern at work when I was 42 and she was 21. We had tons in common. We liked the same music, books, had the same philosophy of life, were able in fact to discuss philosophy together. We had so so much more in common than the other people I worked with who were closer to my own age. Where does that insane belief just above come from? Admittedly, she was an unusual high-IQ high-curiosity individual, but I will never understand how it’s so easy to conclude that two people only separated by 10 years can have nothing in common. That doesn’t even pass the sniff test.
15 workers on office retreat hiked up a mountain — and one got left behind.
Well, we know who is not the favorite now. Or, new way to do a layoff.
This is the correct response. I certainly do not give a single thought to Covid nor care about it in the least. It’s another circulating virus among the dozens out there. Big whoop.
The whole-number discrete jumps are too large; does not have enough granularity without using decimals and sounding like a robot. I in fact do care whether it’s 69 or 71 outside but in Celsius that’s all the same thing: 21 degrees! Fuck that noise.
The metric system was deliberately designed to be anti-human (look it up) and there it succeeds.
‘Is it creepy for me to still feel so physically attracted to my wife?’
Now imagine if the genders were reversed what the answer would be, and how the man would be just absolutely excoriated for the same reaction that the wife there has. You know he would be; don’t even pretend.
The wife here sounds horrible and very dumpable. Time to get rid of the double standards. And the wife.
My Manager Just Fired a Single Mom for Being 5 Minutes Late After Picking Up Her Sick Kid.
This manager is the sort of person whose car should be mysteriously afire one night. Just happens, you know. It’s a thing.
There is almost nothing I care about less than psychedelic substances. In that I include reading about people’s experiences with them or taking them myself. It’s all worthless and their pseudo-revelations uncover not a single thing that can’t be known just by thought alone. Psychedelics provide a compelling illusion, a single-player video game with faux-insight that comports with nothing valuable or actually perceptive.
Indeed, it is possible if one wants to do it. Admittedly she had good genetics, but I had a friend in the 90s, 36 years old, who had a kid and a year later you could not tell she’d given birth. She was slightly below her pre-pregnancy weight afterward. And to answer the objection that “she was just wearing flattering clothes,” I took fully nude photos of her (at her request) after she gave birth so I saw exactly what she looked like.
At one point, I asked her how she’d managed to look so amazing after giving birth. She said that it was mainly not ignoring fitness while pregnant, not gaining a huge amount of weight as that advice is 100% incorrect1, and then one should start to get back into exercise as soon as practicable after giving birth. She was back to working out two weeks after having her kid.
Much is possible with the will, and she had the will so she made the way. Can everyone do exactly the same as she did? No. As mentioned, she had very good genetics. That helps. But she was a single mom and not rich and she did it. Which means more people could.
It’s cool to watch your power bill go down because you’re sending juice back into the grid and the power company is paying you for that.
I think Jane is nearly-totally wrong here. Below, I’ll explain way.
She’s right about one thing: the 1990s was not the pinnacle of human civilization. However, particularly if you were straight, the 1990s was a pretty great time to be alive no matter your circumstances as a child or adult. That’s because it saw the end of the Cold War and it was an era of (mostly) peace and, importantly, of tranquility after a long stint of dread and fear. The nuclear shadow we’d all been crouching under for forty years receded; it felt like we were far less likely to perish in a globe-spanning nuclear conflagration. Many people had been living with the inevitability of that since the 1950s. Jane is 36. Like Florrie, she’s too young to recall any of that, so she has absolutely no idea what that was like (and it really shows).
I remember talking on the playground with kids in the fourth grade about how we hoped we died quickly when we were nuked, as who would want to live after that? That’s not a normal thing for nine-year-olds to talk about, don’t you think? I wonder if Jane thinks kids of that age discuss such topics now. I am quite sure they do not. But it was common back in the 1980s.
Second, the 90s were a time of just great optimism and unbridled hopefulness. Yes, even for adults. It felt like we were on the way to solving all our problems, that some glorious future was just ahead of us, and that all of us were building it. The whole culture was just bursting with that notion. Hell, even the “pessimistic” stuff from that era seems almost comically optimistic now in retrospect.
Jane is wrong, but is both too young and too lacking in wisdom to understand why and how she is wrong. Sure, just plain nostalgia is a thing. And I don’t agree with J.D. Haltigan’s take, either. But it’s possible for two people to be wrong. And Jane is just an absolute bellend here in all ways someone could be one.
Corporate Culture and Tattoos.
I hire people and am definitely biased against people with visible tattoos. To me it shows that you are likely to exercise poor judgment in other areas, too. Yes, I admit it’s prejudicial and no, it does not mean I automatically reject those with tattoos.
But it does make it less likely I hire you, especially if you are at all customer-facing.