Agreed, most men are like this. Iโve known many myself.
Iโm a good cook. Do it several times a week. We usually cook together, though. More fun that way.
I wash nearly all of the dishes and never have a problem noticing when anything is out. I go grocery shopping by myself all the time to get what is needed (did it just yesterday). Why do all too many men seem incapable of this?
Itโs not like I take care of everything, though โ we do concentrate on what we prefer. I donโt like sweeping, so I donโt do that. And I donโt like cleaning mirrors. But we generally clean the bathrooms about half and half. Same with vacuuming and any other form of cleaning.
If we ever have to paint, though, Iโm just not doing that. I hate painting, am bad at it, and refuse to do it. Iโd rather hire someone, or just not do it at all. And no one wants me doing general house maintenance, if there is to be a house left standing at the end of it. I will gladly be the dumb muscle if my girlfriend decides she wants to do something, but if itโs up to me I hire someone.
I also donโt do yard work, but thatโs why they make money.
But not being an oblivious dumbass is really not hard. I left childhood behind a long time ago. Why canโt more men do the same?
You also didn’t have a normal childhood, which is also why helicopter parenting baffles the hell out of you. From your posts you didn’t even have typical 80s parental supervision. Didn’t you have a recent post saying that you got yourself up, breakfast and to & from the school bus at the age of five? When would you have learned that that someone else would take care of a chore if you sat back? IIRC, your sister is several years younger so I’m not even sure how much kid minding you did.
Yeah, I was pretty much taking care of myself by the time I was halfway through kindergarten. You’re probably right that has something to do with it. If I didn’t do it, no one did — though my mom did at least cook dinner most days (unfortunately, she was a terrible cook).
My mom tried to get me to be responsible for my sister, but I rebelled, so I wasn’t saddled with as much of that as I could’ve been.