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That is realistic as to speed. It would be moving that velocity or faster. ICBMs re-enter the atmosphere at 6-7km/s. Air resistance starts slowing them down but they are quite aerodynamic, so theyโ€™d still be going 3-4km/s by the time they got close to the ground. Also note that the re-entry vehicle is not the missile you see flying. The RVs are shaped like sharp bullets. Like this:

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Yes, you would be able to see it at night. No rocket engine, but remember how I said that ICBM RVs enter the atmosphere at 6-7km/s? That means they generate massive air friction and their external components quickly start glowing red- or white-hot. Thereโ€™s some kind of aluminum lattice that shields the vital components, and some other things I canโ€™t remember, but anyway, the re-entry vehicle would glow at night, and brightly enough that youโ€™d definitely be able to see your doom arriving.