My brain's behavior around attraction and mate selection is very confusing to me, probably intentionally so I can't figure it out and then hack it into letting me have more sex.
But basically, 'confidence' is a huge one, along with lots of special accidental shit-tests to see 1/

— Aella (@Aella_Girl) October 9, 2020

This is the behavior of 90%+ of attractive women. It’s completely typical. As someone pointed out, this is the most normal thing Aella has ever written.

It’s why I’d also want nothing to do with her sexually or in a relationship other than friendship — I’m confident enough not to need this or want someone to treat me like this. If I were interested in dating, I have too many other options to want to endure this. Perversely, this might make me more attractive to her (I’ve found this to be very true over the years), but that would not change my feelings about it.

I don’t need to be teased or shit-tested. My confidence in my own awesomeness just means this wastes my time and hers and makes the world worse for no reason at all.

We all end up with someone we deserve, for good or ill.