When someone says you are difficult, I think that means they wanted something from you and you said no.

Exactly. The many times in my life I have been called “difficult,” it’s been because I wouldn’t do some harebrained thing that some dipshit thought I should do to help him/her out, or follow some bad advice that would lead to calamity.

But to quote the philosopher dev09, “If I followed your advice, I’d be where you’re at.”