Human behavior and tendencies are so strange in a lot of ways. For example, when you donโt need or want something, people are more likely to attempt to give you more of it: love, money, sex, friendship, praise.
Desperation or neediness is like kryptonite to most people, so the less your need for a thing the more likely you are to receive it.
Thatโs really deeply just fucked up when you think about it.