when people say stuff like this I get really confused

Is there anyone actually in the position of making a "decision" on a life partner from the field of options?

It's not like choosing which college to go to or which major, it's almost always just happenstance https://t.co/cWf7wOCb8Q

— Misha – Visiting the bay area Nov 19 – Jan 3 (@drethelin) November 23, 2022

This is the PMC ideal that nearly dominates all thought now about relationships. They believe that any human connection is always and only about power.