V vs. C

Everything is Virgin vs. Chad.

I can’t read the whole post1, but I do think the girlfriend’s “compliment” is very insulting. More than 90% of men would. That is because these days women are even more hypocritical about dating than men. And that’s because they can be — they have more choice, and far more choice than they used to (which, by and large, is a good thing).

But that abundance of choice has fashioned a lot of women overall into worse people. Not all of the time, and not every woman. But a hell of a lot of them and a hell a lot of the time. No one wants to hear this but it’s true.

What the gf said is an insult because it implies that the man is a second (or 10th) choice, only good enough to have something long-term with when the woman/gf was done messing around with “bad boys” who are more attractive to her but mistreat her. Only then, after getting tired of that, did she settle for some chump who wasn’t good enough to get with her when she was in her wild phase. And that behavior is in fact true of many women. I’ve seen it myself quite often.

So indeed, if my partner said something like this to me (she never would) I’d strongly consider leaving her. As it is in fact a huge fucking insult. And yes, she reads this blog so ain’t no secrets here. If I said something similar to her, I’d hope she’d consider the same because it’s a big fuck you. It is demeaning and insulting.

That gf, without meaning to, set off a nuclear bomb in her relationship that it probably should not recover from; if she still finds the bad boys more attractive, she should go be with them for her and her boyfriend’s benefit. They’d both probably end up happier in the end.

  1. Here is the post on Reddit.

SOC IT 2 Me

Solo sysadmin with 6 months experience at an SMB (~500 staff) being asked to get entire org SOC2 compliant. Zero experience with compliance. Is this reasonable?

Oh fuck no that’s not reasonable. I have well more than 20 years of IT experience and I’m about to do this nearly solo at a much smaller org. I’m also fairly well-versed in compliance, and I can barely handle it1. It’s a huge task, with hundreds of interlocking parts necessitating deep understanding not just of IT but of the entire business and of various compliance requirements.

Someone with only six months of sysadmin experience going for SOC 2 is like sending out a gaggle of kittens to fight a rhinoceros. It’s just not gonna happen.

When I was working at a company of similar size to the OP’s, it took a team of about a dozen people working on it nearly full-time for 18 months to get SOC 2 Type II. I’d expect about the same anywhere.

Unger

How do you deal with being attracted to younger women?

These comments are nuts. And that post title is written as if being attracted to someone younger is some sort of terminal fucking disease. So oddball. Perhaps because I only tend to hang out or want to be around atypical people no matter their age, I’ve never found any of this insanity they are talking about to be true. And here, I am considering “attracted” as friends too, not just romantically.

If I were single, I’d date anyone 22 and up without a second thought1. Personality matters so, so much more to me than age (as long as everyone is of legal age). And shared interests, attraction. The rest is fairly irrelevant to me.

Look, people don’t become a different species when they get older. I find this idea so damn weird. Like, come on, I enjoy most of the same things now as I did at 20. I’m not some completely different person. And I’ve found that is true of most people. Or at least the ones I’m interested in getting to know2.

I suspect what’s happening in that thread is men desperately white-knighting in an attempt to not seem creepy, where “creepy” has been wholly defined by feminists attempting dating market competition elimination — and succeeding in spades.

Me, I don’t give a fuck. Obviously.

Degrowthing

Do the degrowthers really think it’s a winning proposition that they want to take away refrigeration, sanitation and air conditioning? Do they truly believe that will sway anyone, win anyone over, make anyone remotely normal a true believer?

What’s the play there exactly? Oh, right, they just enjoy taking away things. Has nothing to do with saving the planet or humanity; it’s just permissible cruelty.

Recreational

‘Our city is not an RV park’: L.A. to study widespread RV parking ban.

It seems that cities will do nearly anything but attempt to address the housing affordability crisis that is the actual cause of this and similar follow-on problems; homelessness, RVs everywhere, poor economic growth in the most viable urban areas, low birth rates — all of this and more is caused by NIMBYs preventing construction, thus leading to absurdly-high shelter costs where the good jobs are.

We need to smack down the NIMBYs hard and build, build, build. The other problems will then be solved without much additional effort. But no one says that because NIMBYs have the power.

Combat

It’s going to be interesting watching the MAGA clowns argue in November or January why their very obvious coup is not a coup. We don’t need barely-literate doofs attempting to hijack high office while we’ve got at least one and maybe two major wars ahead of us.

And so many other problems that won’t be solved by putting a nearly 80-year-old doddering paranoid case in charge of them. And yes, the senility issue is true of Trump or Biden.

China as a model.

Kamala Harris doesn’t owe the national press anything. Exactly right.

Kamala Harris is taking power back from the press corps. She learned from Bidenโ€™s fatal error.

Russian Troop Shortage Is Exposed After Ukraineโ€™s Incursion, Raising Risk of New Draft.

Popping the Bubble of Noise-Cancelling Headphones. A new Japanese-designed device promises to โ€œunmute the world,โ€ as if it were no longer possible to do so simply by uncovering your ears.

Are We Living in the Age of Info-Determinism? Increasingly, our networks seem to be steering our history in ways we donโ€™t like and canโ€™t control. I thought the future would be cooler.

Is COVID endemic yet? Yep, says the CDC. Here’s what that means. In reality has been endemic for a while.

Scientists hail โ€˜smartโ€™ insulin that responds to changing blood sugar levels in real time.

NASA shuts down asteroid-hunting telescope, but a better one is on the way.

Cisco slashes thousands of workers as it announces yearly profit of $10.3 billion.

Shelter inflation is ‘the most disappointing aspect’ of July CPI report.

USA Average Home Price By State July 2024.