Dating requirements.

This isn’t entirely wrong, but it also isn’t fair to women.

It ignores that being attractive isn’t actually that easy. We live in an obesogenic environment that requires a lot of self-control. And to be what most men consider attractive¹ involves quite a lot of work from women: “natural” makeup, shaving legs and armpits, dressing decently and flatteringly and other skin care and body care routines that most men are not even aware of.

But it’s right in that men are more judged on things they have no control over, especially in the US².

As a first approximation, women are valued for merely existing; men are valued for status and achievements. Those men who have neither are considered disposable by both men and women.

1. If you don’t just naturally have it like my partner.
2. Women in other countries aren not so incredibly, unhealthily obsessed with height as American women are. Don’t know why.