When I was younger, I didn’t realize I was mildly unsettling to be around and that this was because I was simultaneously very relaxed while at the same time being, for lack of a better term, coiled. Most people have never been around a person who is both chill and ready to pounce.

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned to conceal the hypervigilance aspect of my personality but in reality it’s always there and always will be. I don’t mind it. My “relaxed” is not like other people’s “relaxed” and that’s ok.

But I will never wear headphones in public.

I hate Standard Time as much as I hate winter. Should be DST always.

What trait in an ex-girlfriend did you see that stopped you from seeing her as a long term option?

Tendency to throw plates at my head.

Society doesn’t care that much about male suffering.

Being the disposable sex isn’t as great as women imagine it to be. But I guess it’s nearly impossible for most people (women included) to comprehend something they’ve never experienced.

Most likely poorer. There’s less chance I would’ve gone into IT and less chance I would’ve done any stock market shenanigans. Both of those things, particularly when I was younger, were very male-coded. For IT I would’ve been discouraged from pursuing this field explicitly and implicitly by the pervasive misogyny and sexism present there in the late 1990s and early 2000s.

So even assuming my personality and proclivities would be roughly similar as a different sex, I’d probably be poorer by a large amount.

It’ll be about preserving civilization at some point, and not that far off. Must of the left would prefer to see it destroyed. But we can put them on the other side of the wall.

Do men ever feel unsafe?

Of course. Men are just not allowed to talk about it as much, and men aren’t believed (or are belittled) when they say they are afraid or something bad actually happens to them.

When I got my ass kicked in middle school, that wasn’t the worst part. The worst part was being made fun of for it afterwards, even by teachers, etc. There’s nothing worse as a man than being perceived as weak and an easy target. I think women have a lot of trouble understanding this.

Then I learned how to fight. The hard way.

But men seem fearless to women for these reasons:

1) Showing fear makes it so much worse for you as a man. Makes you into an insta-target for other men and even women. So we don’t.

2) We feel fear and do it anyway.

Women are allowed to express fear. Men are not. Simple as that.

On one customer questionnaire, my name was next to 14 different job titles.

I don’t get paid for 14 different jobs. But I should.

I don’t like many beers, but Belching Beaver Peanut Butter Milk Stout is damn good.

It’s not bitter at all (which I hate) and has a really full flavor. It’s also smooth. It’s not my favorite beer. Alas, that one is not available in the US any longer. But BB is very nice for the price.

I was considering writing something similar a while ago (note: I did not and in fact cannot read the article). I believe the denial of female intrasexual competition was part and parcel of feminism transitioning from a movement about equality to celebrating female ascendance — while simultaneously attempting to dodge all responsibility and accountability that should ride along with power. In this transition, all negative female qualities were minimized and/or denied. Anyone who did not play along was severely punished with cancellation and disapprobation.

Also, there was the attempt to claim that women and men are exactly the same in every way. And to believe that, of course, you have to deny a lot of obvious evidence. For sure, there is male intrasexual competition. But it truly pales in comparison to the female variant which is vicious, cruel and lifelong (males usually age out of this mostly in their late teens and early 20s).

Women, being so steeped in this intrasexual competition, often cannot believe that most men just do not really experience it and if they do, it’s minimal. But ladies, it’s true. In that way being a man is definitely better. All that toxicity is just not something we have to worry about.

(And 99.9999% of the “concern” about age gap relationships — especially when the woman is younger — is actually well-disguised female intrasexual competition manifesting.)

When I watch videos like this, I am thankful for how great my current partner is in comparison. Because in all my other prior relationships, the problems she’s talking about have occurred.

Women love the, “If you were a real man, you would (insert something insane or demeaning here)” line. My current partner has never said or even implied anything like that. Women often have more toxic masculinity immanent than men they accuse of same is what I’ve noticed.

As always with things aimed at the so-called “manosphere” (of which I am not a part), I don’t agree with all of it, but I think she makes one particularly important point: Women often claim they do a lot of “emotional labor.” I think this is mostly bullshit. Many women don’t even believe men have emotions and if they do, they should suppress them wholly. For example women in the past I’ve been with spent hours a week trauma-dumping and I (and millions of other men) are expected to listen to this and react appropriately.

But the moment you even hint that you’re having a hard time or something didn’t go your way and it made you sad or uspet, the reaction of these same women is often, “Man up and fix your own shit!” Or, “I’m not here for a weak man.” Or they just lose all attraction to you. Like, you can literally see it drain out of their eyes.

Men know it’s mostly them who do most of the emotional labor in most relationships. It’s just that men having any emotions is seen by most women as “emotional labor.” Sucks.

Indeed. If I had not asked 500+ women out, I would not have found the 501st — the keeper. It’s a numbers game. Always has been, always will be. Especially for men, but also for everyone.

How do people have the mental control to not eat an entire bag of potato chips or a box of cookies that they bought on the same day?

Easy. I simply just do not do that.

How to accept I am not most women’s cup of tea and that’s not the end of the world?

Who cares? Most men aren’t most women’s cup of tea. Women are a hundred times pickier than men and most women think nearly all men are unattractive. The opposite is not the case. That’s what makes dating extremely difficult for men unless you’re in the top few percent. Even then, the average woman still has a better time of it than all but the top 0.1% or so of men. The odds are stacked against you from the start unless you’re Robert Redford in his prime or someone like that.

So don’t worry about it. You can’t change biology or culture. Social media has really very deeply harmed women mentally as a whole lately, too, which has made it even worse. So just have fun. There’s plenty of other things in life.

Here’s my trigger warning: If you read any of the bullshit on here, you’re gonna be triggered.

There ya go.