When I watch videos like this, I am thankful for how great my current partner is in comparison. Because in all my other prior relationships, the problems she’s talking about have occurred.

Women love the, “If you were a real man, you would (insert something insane or demeaning here)” line. My current partner has never said or even implied anything like that. Women often have more toxic masculinity immanent than men they accuse of same is what I’ve noticed.

As always with things aimed at the so-called “manosphere” (of which I am not a part), I don’t agree with all of it, but I think she makes one particularly important point: Women often claim they do a lot of “emotional labor.” I think this is mostly bullshit. Many women don’t even believe men have emotions and if they do, they should suppress them wholly. For example women in the past I’ve been with spent hours a week trauma-dumping and I (and millions of other men) are expected to listen to this and react appropriately.

But the moment you even hint that you’re having a hard time or something didn’t go your way and it made you sad or uspet, the reaction of these same women is often, “Man up and fix your own shit!” Or, “I’m not here for a weak man.” Or they just lose all attraction to you. Like, you can literally see it drain out of their eyes.

Men know it’s mostly them who do most of the emotional labor in most relationships. It’s just that men having any emotions is seen by most women as “emotional labor.” Sucks.