I disagree with this pretty strongly. With a good enough sex robot the illusion of desire will be indistinguishable from actual desire. This is all that most people will require. To expand that a bit, once the uncanny valley is crossed — and it will be — most men and most women will be content with “someone” who is always insatiably attracted to them, interested in them, and shares their kinks and predilections.
This is just obvious if you know even a little bit about human nature.
This is where men get accused of things like “YOU ONLY CARE ABOUT SEX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1111111111” when it’s the feeling of being less important than some random clown that is really what’s going on. This is almost always the case, though it plays out in different ways.
The reality is that a lot of women use sex as a weapon. And men react to that weaponization. As anyone should.
Women are often more obsessed with sex than men, just in different (and typically more harmful) ways.
The myth is that men are sex-obsessed beasts who can think of and are concerned with nothing else.
The reality for most men: “This woman is naked with her legs spread and she’s pulling down my pants. Maybe she’s just tired? Or doesn’t like my pants? She probably doesn’t actually want sex. This is a trick or something. I better not chance it. Don’t want to be a creep.”
The above (only slightly exaggerated) happens so very often to men who are only used to disdain and rejection from women.
Men, what did your girlfriend do that was disgusting, but you liked it?
An ex-girlfriend long ago tried a lollipop, decided she didn’t like it, and just stuffed it in my mouth straight from hers. For some reason I found it quite hot even though I am usually wary of anyone doing anything unexpected like that due to my past.
It didn’t turn into a fetish or anything like that but in the moment it turned me on quite a lot.
The Coming Wave of Sex Negativity.
This was written in 2021, so the sex-negative trend had already been firmly in place by that time. But she is still correct. And she (as I do) thinks it’s going to get worse. Much, much worse.
If there’s one drum I’ve been beating for a minute now, it’s that I believe the pendulum with sexuality is going to swing, big time. And seriously, if you guys remember me for anything, have it be this.
Mark my words: Next financial crisis, we’re diving headlong into something that’s been simmering in the background since 2013-2014… sex negativity.
Younger millennials and Gen Z are already extremely sex-negative, even a lot of the men and boys. I also think she’s gotten closer to the core of the real problem with this than anyone else; I’ve been having similar thoughts.
This will be as much a rebellion against the pod as it is anything else. People do not want to be atomized. They do not want to be neutered. Sex dolls are unsustainable. Nobody wants this dystopia. It WILL be painted as anti-tech but it is not necessarily “about” tech. THIS IS THE REAL CULTURE WAR.
I disagree with her about sex work and that her overall tone suggests that, like many women, she sees women as just larger children a bit but I believe she’s got the gist of what is happening and what is about to happen.
The only good part of this mess is that I expect tattoos to get much, much less popular as a result. That won’t make up for this insanity, but even the worst things have some benefits.
I’ve noticed similar and it is an enormous difference. It’s shocking how prudish, how asexual and how repressed younger millennials and Gen Z are. It’s like they are missing out on so much of life and don’t seem to realize it or care.
Very sure they’ll regret it when older, though.
And various goofuses were arguing with me a while ago, claiming that society in toto was not getting vastly more prudish. Totally wrong.
During sex, do men know if their condom breaks? Or no?
It depends in how into it you both are. Sometimes I can tell. Sometimes not. One time the condom broke, came completely off and got lost inside the woman I was having sex with. We didn’t realize it for a while. It didn’t feel any different to me at all because we’d been doing it a while and we were both a bit overstimulated.
No matter what feminists claim about the evilness of men (some even in that thread), it’s pretty difficult to tell most of the time when the condom breaks1. Of the 3-4 times it’s happened to me, I’ve noticed it more often by seeing it broken than by feeling it. And I definitely don’t want no damn kids, so I’m very very interested in when the condom is not doing its job any longer. It’s just that you often cannot tell.
Well, for men anyway we are told that any horniness means you are a creep and that any expression of sexuality means you are dangerous and terrible. That’s the modern consensus. What will challenge it?
We were moving away from this in the 90s a bit, but then it returned with a terrible vengeance.
Sometimes, I wish it were true that “men only think about sex” and that sex is all we care about. Because then I’d probably have a lot more of it.