Becoming a parent seems to make most people into some sort of weird pseudo-human that causes them to consign to oblivion everything that happened before they decided to grace the earth with their crotchsplosions.
I don’t understand why. Having a kid takes no particular skill. It just takes fucking and then waiting.
When I was a kid — and this wasn’t uncommon at all — kids were not centered in adult life. Not like they are now. At the time it made me unhappy, but then again I was an unusual kid.
This is another relative-large social shift in my lifetime that I don’t really understand the genesis of, nor the dominance of the underlying weltaunshauung. I’m not even going to speculate on how it developed.
This article covers some pretty good annoyances typically heard from those folks, though.
Indicating to these people that having kids is the only way they will reach some higher level of understanding is both inconsiderate and rude. I don’t know what the alternatives to these statements are. Maybe just cut anything that starts with “When you have kids…” out of your repertoire all together. It makes you sound like their mom anyway.
I don’t have any problem with people having kids. I just don’t believe it makes you a saint, a better person than me, or qualified to dispense unwanted advice. That’s all.
[…] Having a kid takes no particular skill. It just takes fucking and then waiting. […]
“I don’t have any problem with people having kids” says the dude who just referred to kids as “crotchplosions.”
Biologically having a kid only takes fucking and waiting for men. Longevity rates for women grew exponentially when childbirth mortality went down. Women with property in their own names routinely made out wills before they went into labor.
Being unhappy that you weren’t the center of adult life didn’t make you an unusual kid.
You are obviously quite bored if you’re going to cut and paste a childfree board rant.
Well, for women or men, having a kid only takes the “skill” of having sex. That is tautologically true.
The consequences of this for one sex however are much greater.
Not a childfree board rant — I’ve never been to one. Just people like me get told that they are only valuable as people and truly fulfilled if they have kids. And if you say you do not want kids, being told, “Oh, but you’ll change your mind!” Despite the fact that I’ve know that I did not since I was 10 years old myself.
Sure, have kids if you want. I just object to people pretending like they’ve bequeathed the world and themselves a huge gift, as many parents do. I am sure having a kid changes you — apparently often in unpleasant ways. There is no easier way to offend most everyone than to mention that kids aren’t that great for health or happiness, I’ve found.