One of the reasons it was difficult finding a long-term partner is that not only am I very picky in general (and women hate that1), itโs that I required someone within less than one SD of my own IQ, or we could just not have meaningful conversations. And I value those, so it was a pretty hard requirement.
When I was actively dating, I figured out there were only roughly 200,000 women in the US who exceeded that intelligence barrier.
So, yes, I got very lucky indeed. The number of available, clever, sexy, funny and interesting women with stratospherically-high IQs is always exceedingly small, but I did find one. And completely by accident, too.
Lucky me!