Good short essay. She understands what’s really going on.
I often hear that, in a relationship across an age gap, the older partner is the more powerful. There are, of course, relationships in which this is true: between suave, wealthy Svengalis and naive ingenue mentees. But in my experience the power imbalance is more often the other way around.
Indeed. A lot of women have realized they can get away with the “Tee-hee, I was just a naive little 23-year-old baby, I didn’t know what I was doing” act, and are going to use it. It’s only human to do so, but it doesn’t make it true — no more than it is true when men say, “I thought she said ‘yes.'”
And it’s common to feel especially insecure about your attractiveness when you’re the older party, especially if you’re a woman. In an age-gap relationship, there is often a significant power gap—the younger person wields more power simply because he or she is more sexually desirable and therefore has far more relationship options. This is especially true if the woman is the older one: youth is more prized in women than in men.
The dream of everyone is to have power and choices without accountability and responsiblity. Feminism has realized it can get away with this (their “All women under 40 are powerless little babies” schtick) and so it’s going to try. It’s not women being evil; it’s women being human.
And of course PMC libs are fine with this dull accounting because they wish to herd everyone into the all-knowing all-seeing algorithm, and anything they can quantify and make verboten serves this end very well indeed.