Lockers

What are some things women complain about men that you believe is projection?

Locker room talk.

This is not really a thing that men do. Women engage in locker room talk (though not generally in a locker room) far, far more than any men do, ever. The idea of locker room talk is all projection on womenโ€™s part โ€” because most women do in fact engage in extremely graphic descriptions of their partnerโ€™s sexual practices, anatomical characteristics, frequency and performance. With very rare exceptions, men do not do this while many women do almost as a matter of course. (And excuse it as โ€œjust girl talk.โ€)

And yes, I do know, because I have more than a few close female friends.

What men actually talk about in locker rooms if they talk about women at all (usually itโ€™s just goofing around):

Man 1: Did you see Kristina? She looked hot!

Man 2: Damn she did! What are we doing for lunch?

Womenโ€™s locker room talk:

Woman 1: And then he took his pants off and his cock reminded me of my ex-boyfriends but I didnโ€™t say anything even though it turned me off right away. And he kind of stood like he wanted me to do something, but I didnโ€™t know what so I just laid down and he touched my thigh, but his hand was rough and that made me pull back a little so then he kissed me and that was ok but I couldnโ€™t stop thinking about how his dick looked like my exโ€™sโ€ฆ.

Woman 2: Yeah, I know what you mean. When my husband gets all sweaty and such it really turns me off and he likes to do it doggy but heโ€™s so small so I donโ€™t really feel anything, and so I like to use my toy but he gets upset when I do so I feel like he wishes he were bigger. And he doesnโ€™t like it when I suck him off when heโ€™s too tired but thatโ€™s the most fun for me because he doesnโ€™t want to spend an hour having sex because it makes me too exhaustedโ€ฆ.

Menโ€™s locker room talk, largely, is just not a thing. Trust me on this. Womenโ€™s locker room talk, though, is if anything even more explicit than what I wrote above.