The problem I have with some of the hating “Nice Guys” – even though I agree with much of it – is that all too often, perhaps most of the time, it becomes an exercise in bullying and nerd-shaming.

For most people, especially people who are used to being underdogs, there is nothing more satisfying than being able to bully someone who can’t fight back.

This is why I hate most people, by the way – the bullied are often just as content to become the bullies when they can get away with it.

And shaming socially awkward people (mostly men) is one way that some (most?) feminists and others can get away with it at the moment, in the guise of shaming Nice Guys.

Look, I hate the whole Nice Guy shtick, too. It’s vile. But just like with the concept of the Manic Pixie Dream Girl, the concept – while useful at first – morphed into something that came to encompass anyone who is socially awkward and male at the same time. And lately, I’ve even seen socially awkward women shamed by these idiots.

There is no one easier to shame than unattractive, socially-awkward people. That’s why it’s done so much!

Rarely do I see anyone but the rare few like Edward Snowden attempt to shame the truly powerful.

Fuck, that shit is dangerous! That’s why aint’ nearly nobody doing it.

But denigrating those too weak or awkward to fight back, now that’s pure fun!

When I first started seeing talk of Nice Guys it was an honest critique of a genuine phenomenon, of clueless and entitled young men attempting to parley (usually disingenuous) friendship into sex and then being grossly offended that this transaction did not ring up at the register.

Lately, this idea of the “Nice Guy” has more become a method to attack and shame those who are usually physically and/or socially unattractive (usually both) who express the shocking desire that they might one day want to be in a relationship.

And that’s bullying, and I won’t have any part in it no matter what it costs me.