My gf is nearly perfect, but she’s too dumb to be with.

This is sad. I know I said I’m an elitist. And I am. That reiterated adequately, there is also nothing wrong with being dumb. It’s usually not much of a choice. However, there is something wrong with being a dumbass. The girl in question is not smart, but she does not sound like a dumbass.

The guy would very much be a dumbass, though, for staying with her. He’ll eventually get annoyed and treat her poorly, and she doesn’t deserve that at all. Dumb people should have good lives too.

What exactly changed with dating that so many men are giving up on it?

Social media has really harmed women. Like, very deeply wounded them. It’s terrible to see.

But part of this is that the majority of women date for validation while the majority of men date for love, sex and companionship. Again, not true of everyone! Some men also date for validation etc. But when I was actively dating, I noticed a lot of women were just there to be admired.

And that was not for me.

Most people’s politics are based on fear. Even mine, to a large extent. That is because fear is the base human emotion.

It means, though, that most people can easily discern the exact fears that inform and shape others’ politics but can almost never see how their own beliefs and tendencies are molded by the same force.

I know I’m a bit rough and tumble but it’s because many times in my life I had to be tough and rumble.

It’s been wild watching the left and the right creep back towards supporting Nazism due to backing Russia against Ukraine. It’s really fucking odd, I know, but the logic (as hinted at in the post below) seem to be this:

1) If countries hadn’t fought back against the Nazis as the invasion of Europe occurred, peace would’ve been preserved.

2) Russia invaded Ukraine and Ukraine chose to resist.

3) Therefore, Ukraine is culpable as they did not “peacefully” surrender.

4) Thus, the Nazis were also a-ok because if all of Europe had just peacefully surrendered to them too, all would’ve been well! Like Russia, after all, they had “valid” security concerns.

5) Then, obviously, Ukraine is the real bad guy here for resisting Putin’s peaceful war/genocide.

Alas, I saw someone I once really respected arguing the above not long ago, in nearly those exact steps. All those people should really move to Russia and become part of one of Putin’s meat wave attacks.

Admittedly, I don’t know that many people but no one I know has had Covid in 8-10 months. No one at work has has, or on the team I run.

If it’s supposed to be ubiquitous, it’s doing a terrible job of showing up anywhere. Covidians are funny. Why do they want us to live in a constant panic state? What’s the point of it?

If you’re a man, the average case of even a good outcome is that you end up in a mediocre relationship with a narcissist and the average case of a bad outcome is that you get rudely rejected — with the outside but very real chance that you get ostracized, fired or even jailed if a woman wants to go nuclear on you for the horrible crime of being awkward or unattractive.

What benefit is there? If I weren’t with my partner, I’d definitely not date again. It might be a sparse minefield, but it’s still a minefield.

Navy commander relieved of duty after photo showed him firing rifle with scope backward.

I mean, that’s stupid, but is that really worth relieving someone over? The chance that a Navy Commander would need to use a rifle is extremely small. And probably wouldn’t be using the scope anyway.

There had to be some other reason to relieve him and this was just an excuse.

What’s the point of life if you’re not trying to make your brain as big as it can be? I hate looking at something and not understanding it. Just walking around clueless and ignorant. How do people live like that?

Not gonna be me.

That’s because people like me who correctly think that tattoos are fucking horrible blights won’t have sex with people who have tattoos.

One of the things I deeply like and appreciate about Aella is that she firmly and fully believes that women are not in fact children and acts that way in her own life, no matter what she does.

This makes me like her as a person even if I feel like I probably would not actually get along all that well with her in real life (I think we’d annoy the fuck out of one another).

I had this experience in Israel. Went there, gazed around agog for days, shocked by how insanely hot all the women were in comparison to what I was used to back in the States. And then I realized that it was not that I had found a wholly-new species of human, but that nearly all of the Israeli women were svelte and took care of themselves fitness-wise. Nearly none were obese, or even overweight, nor out of shape (And also had better, less entitled personalities as well.).

And it turns out that makes a large damn difference, more than you can even imagine before you experience it.

Or to put the below in terms I hope more women would understand, what the Reddit woman said was equivalent to this (gender switched): “You’re not nearly as cute or sexy as any of my previous girlfriends, but it’s great that you’re so good at cooking and cleaning.”

How does it feel now?

My sister would’ve slept through that, no problem. She could sleep through anything. One time in frustration of her not getting up (me being parentified at the time) I pulled her off the bed by her feet, dragged her through the house, picked her up and threw her roughly in the back of the car. She stayed asleep the entire time. No, she was not faking. She woke up at our grandparents’ house, highly confused by how she’d gotten there.

Once she also slept through her window being shattered on her by a tree limb. And I am sure other incidents I’m forgetting. I also did throw water on her one time, though I didn’t pour it in her ear. It didn’t even rouse her a little bit. She didn’t even flinch or react in the least.

Incels cause a lot of their own problems, but what creates a ton of incels is that young men get absolutely no sympathy (quite the opposite) for being lonely, confused and socially unskilled, while young women receive mostly sympathy and understanding for the same.

And that matters.